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My contributions to #LoveLydia so far.
because what, what, what, what the actual heck are you people doing
you wouldn’t send such harsh messages to real people, especially not someone who’s just had their life turned upside down.
Just because the recipient isn’t real and is therefore not affected by your words, YOU are both affecting yourself and others. You are encouraging this kind of behaviour in real life toward real people, that it’s somehow ok to use your words in flippant and hurtful ways as if the recipient deserved it, when in reality, she has been abused, has been taken advantage of, things Lydia could not avoid, because George is a scumbag, but a skilled scumbag. Telling Lydia she’s somehow at fault here is only reinforcing the awful norm that it’s an abusee’s fault for being abused (also bordering on rape culture and blaming rape victims, also not ok).
Just please, try and remember, no matter the circumstance, words have power, so use them for good, not evil; love, not hate.
Here, instead of blaming the innocent, we can use our words to #LoveLydia.
-Anne
I love this post because it highlights that though we can not hurt this fictional character with our words the actions we take and nasty things we say impacts us. It is patterning behavior.
Regardless of the amount of injury we inflict on others with our words (because if Lydia were real it would be devastating to her but as it stands it is in actuality victimless) our behaviors can harm ourselves.This. It’s like the violence in media debate; no matter how little you think something affects you at the time, every action has an effect. Every violent/unkind/negative action you witness or partake in does have a desensitizing effect, just one you may not notice until it is too late.
Reposted from http://lies.tumblr.com/post/42550610212.
